with Self Leadership and NeuroEmotional Health Skills
Discover and Experience How Emotional Health, Self-Worth and Relational Health are Inextricably Intertwined
Do the Work, Feel Results
​"I just wanted to say thank you. It is wonderful... for the first time in my life, I am seeing and feeling healing!!!!"
CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT
Stuck in Flight Mode
Impact on Health and Relationships
chronic activation (chronic stress) of the 'fight-or-flight-, sympathetic nervous system (SNS). The SNS functions like a gas pedal - accelerating fight-or-flight, fueling for action. However, too much, results in anxiety, reactivity, rage, irritability, and outbursts. Stress hormones impair health drastically, causing inflammation, compromised immune function, and more.
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Angry Outbursts
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Reactivity
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Controlling
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Blaming
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Bullying
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Abusive
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Unsolicited criticism
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Unsolicited opinions
Your Balance Psychology
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What Makes Your Balance Unique?
With mindfulness (Wise Mind) you are able to connect with your thoughts with curiousity so you may navigate all-or-nothing beliefs, limiting beliefs, inner critical thoughts, and assumptions that can cause havoc on all aspects of your life. With Wise Mind and emotional regulation skills you learn and master 'emotional intelligence' so you can access your feelings and emotions. ​
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Educational. Empowering. Transformative.
Repeating painful patterns? Experiencing insecurities, conflict, reactivity, anxiety, resentment, depression, a sense of neediness, emptiness... even feeling unlovable?
It's not you. It's your lack of skills to navigate modern day stress, relationships and finding a sense of purpose.
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Let's upgrade your skills, self-awareness and self-worth with Self Leadership (IFS), a leading-edge, empowering psychotherapy and skills-building method for emotional health skills. Learn to navigate emotions and triggers, calm your nervous system, understand your wants, needs and boundaries and learn to communicate with confidence to create secure relationships and overall well-being.
A woman in her twenties who keeps getting disappointed by 'situationships' and longs for a real relationship and family
A man who keeps sabotaging his relationship with patterns of angry outbursts but loves his girlfriend
A woman in her fifties who's been dumped after thirty years of marriage and has lost her financial security
A man in his forties with a successful career but keeps failing at finding 'the one'
A married professional woman who loves her husband but can't make her patterns of jealousy and anger go away
A single mom going through her fifth breakup post-divorce and feeling devastated and self-critical
A gay woman in her thirties that keeps picking emotionally unavailable women and feeling heartbroken
A man in his sixties who feels painfully abandoned by his wife after she filed for divorce
A woman in her forties going through a breakup after a seven-year engagement and wants to start dating
Increase capacity for love, trust and relationship
Self Leadership Oversees Your
Three NeuroEmotional Systems
MINDFULLY AND SKILLFULLY BRING YOUR THREE SYSTEMS INTO BALANCE
OVERACTIVE THREAT
UNALIGNED DRIVE
UNDERDEVELOPED SOOTHING
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Nowadays, most of us lack self-awareness, Emotional Health Skills and Self Leadership of our thoughts and reactions, so we end up with an UNDERDEVELOPED SOOTHING SYSTEM much like an atrophied muscle!
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We have over-activated Threat Systems (due to Inner Critic and connection starvation, without knowing how to get our genuine connection needs met)
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Along with Unaligned Drive Systems, without purposeful, personal value-aligned, direction
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Results in chronic nervous system activation stress, anxiety, ADHD, self-berating, depression, a sense of running on empty and detrimental health impacts to our mental, physical, emotional and relational health
More Than Talk Therapy
"Truly grateful for all you have done for me. I can feel such a shift. I have had dozens of therapists throughout my life, but have never felt more valued and understood than while working with you. Thank you for helping me live my now empowered life."
CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT
Sessions
LET'S NAVIGATE YOUR INNER WORLD
Rather than traditional talk therapy or passive listening, I actively engage with collaboration, creativity and solution-oriented skills as we navigate your inner world, limiting beliefs, maladaptive protective strategies and relational experiences. I utilize non-pathologizing Self Leadership (IFS) for transformative outcomes for complex-PTSD, anxiety, self-sabotaging, insecurities, codependency and relationship distress - even if you've been stuck in painful patterns for years.
LET'S FOCUS ON YOUR SKILLS
Imperative coursework to start today or to align with sessions. I offer two self-paced programs, Creating Self Leadership and Creating Self Leadership in Relationship. Couples are encouraged to do both. Through intensive courses, you learn evidence-based, tangible skills to process painful emotions, navigate relationship distress, and wholeheartedly connect with yourself and others. Guide your healing today, while learning empowering skills that improve your life forever.
Confidence and Self-Worth
"Thank you for all your help over the past several weeks. I am a totally different person because of you. You have definitely restored my self-worth and pushed my confidence to move forward with my life."
CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT
Why Self Leadership?
Self Leadership involves your ability and responsibility to be in Wise Mind so you can observe, process and guide your beliefs, behaviors, emotions, triggers, maladaptive protective strategies (like perfectionism, procrastination, codependency, reactivity), needs, wants and other parts of your inner world. As you strengthen your Nervous System and Emotional Health and build your Soothing System you are strengthen the 'muscles' through neuroplasticity to able to mindfully choose responses rather than react, clearly communicate, navigate the big stuff, heal from hardships, breakthrough addiction, realize self-worth, create wholehearted relationships and more.
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Self Leadership Oversees Your
Emotions and Nervous System
MINDFULLY AND SKILLFULLY PROCESS EMOTIONS AND BRING YOURSELF INTO CALM
Inner Healing
Creating Balance Within
Step-by-step process for breakup recovery
Cleanse regrets, shame and resentment
Resolve insecurities, loneliness, inner-berating
Build boundaries, self-worth and confidence
Achieve self-connection, self-discipline and self-love
Heal relational trauma and complex-PTSD
Process painful emotions and triggers
Remedy Emotional Self-Neglect (ESN)
Align with your values and sense of purpose
Breakthrough codependency and love addiction
Relationship Healing
Creating Balance in Relationships
Mindfully respond to triggers instead of react
End enabling, caretaking and enmeshment
Learn to speak your Unarguable Truth
From resentment to clear expectations
Understand your wants, needs and limits
Feel seen, heard, valued and respected
Resolve conflict and create agreements
Capacity to connect, love and trust
Build balanced boundaries and protection
Remain out of the Dreaded Drama Triangle
Why Emotional Health Skills?
Experience the profound benefits and fulfillment of working with your emotions, instead of self-medicating, depressing, maladaptively reacting or getting overwhelmed by them.
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Emotions are not just 'in your head' they are full body neurochemical and hormonal experiences that not only impact your physical health, but influence your thoughts, sensory processing, perceptions, focus, mood and behaviors, along with your ability to feel calm, enjoy life real-time and connect with others.
Over time, emotions and your reactions to them - intentional or not - create your choices, personality, your relationships, your Self and your entire life story. Gaining Self Leadership and making your emotional health an intentional practice, rather than unintentional reaction, helps you create the you, you want to be, and the life you want to live.
Make Love Possible
"Staying out of the Drama Triangle and communicating my genuine wants and needs saved my marriage. My husband just wanted to love me but neither of us knew what that even meant. Thank you for making love possible."
CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT
My Credentials
My life's work is to empower others with Self Leadership, Emotional Processing and Relational Health Skills. I've mentored thousands of clients through depression, anxiety, addiction, divorce, codependency, self-loathing, insecurities and complex-PTSD. As a passionate learner and compassionate counselor, I have earned:
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Master's of Science in Professional Counseling (MSPC)
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Master's in Human and Organizational Behavior (MBA)
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Certified Relationship Coach
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Best Counselor in Scottsdale Award, 2019
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IFS-Informed Therapist (Self Leadership), IFS Institute
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Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP)
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40+ years in life so far ;)
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10+ years of experience
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22 certifications and trainings in mindfulness, CBT, DBT, EMDR, CFT, ACT, meditation instruction, somatic embodiment and nervous system regulation
Inspiration and Support
"I feel so lucky to have found you as my expert guide. I wouldn’t have found my way back to myself without you. Thanks for your inspiration and support."
CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT
Self Work
Self Leadership in Life
Guide your thoughts, emotions and behaviors
Cleanse regrets, toxic shame, and resentment
Resolve anxiety, insecurities and inner-berating
Build boundaries, self-worth and confidence
Remedy Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)
Heal heartbreak, complex trauma and depression
Mindfully respond to triggers instead of reacting
Strengthen your Soothing System for more calm
Align with your values and sense of purpose
Couples Work
Self Leadership in Relationship
Create agreements together
Mindfully respond to triggers instead of reacting
Create connected, loving, trusting relationships
End codependency, enabling and enmeshment
Resolve conflict with ease
Learn to speak your forthright, Unarguable Truth
Transform resentment into clear expectations
Understand your genuine wants, needs and limits
Feel seen, heard, valued and respected
What to Expect
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