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HEAL FROM DIVORCE, BREAKUP AND RELATIONSHIP DISAPPOINTMENTS

Breakup Recovery Program

Evidence-based Practices, Video Tutorials, Calming NeuroSensory Exercises and More

Available to begin immediately and included for free. Whether you're dealing a divorce, a painful breakup, or repeated let-downs in dating and 'situationships,' my Breakup Recovery Program provides an empowering, process-oriented approach for you to feel better, faster by healing through the five stages of Breakup Recovery. Due the therapeutic nature of the coursework, I encourage you to pause the program at any point, until your scheduled session, to ensure you are getting the guidance and support needed.

 

STAGES OF RECOVERY OVERVIEW VIDEO

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Program Overview

GUIDE YOUR HEALING TODAY, WHILE LEARNING SKILLS TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE FOREVER 

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Navigating Stages of Breakup Recovery

Tutorials, practices and tools to process through the five essential stages of deep healing. Learn to effectively grieve, heal and resolve internalized beliefs, betrayal, fears, anger, shame, triggers and insecurities that can wreak havoc on relationships and impact our sense of lovability, self-worth and ability to trust and feel calm overall.

 

MAIN PRACTICES

  • Five-weeks of daily practices for Breakup Recovery

  • Calm your nervous system

  • Practices to increase 'feel good' neurochemicals like oxytocin and serotonin

  • Resolve anger, resentment and regrets

  • Deidealize Your Ex and Idealize Your Future

  • Learn evidence-based methods and emotional health skills to process painful emotions and triggers

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Build Self-Worth and Confidence

You may be 'emotionally unavailable' without knowing it due to an Anxious or Avoidant Attachment Style from childhood. This needs to be resolved to feel seen, heard, valued and loved. 

MAIN PRACTICES

  • Cleanse regrets and insecurities

  • Realize and align with personal values

  • Inner Critic Work

  • ​Shame Detox

  • Build your self-awareness, confidence and self-worth

  • Actualized self-love practices

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Resolve Maladaptive Patterns

Resolve the painful effects of relationship dysfunction and heartbreak, including complex-PTSD, reactivity, triggers, self-sabotaging, insecurities, codependency - even if you've been stuck in painful patterns for years.

MAIN PRACTICES

  • Resolve maladaptive coping behaviors

  • Identify your Stress-Reaction Type

  • End Codependency and enmeshment patterns

  • Mindfully respond to triggers, rather than react

  • Identify sabotaging behaviors and resolve them

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Increase Capacity for Love

You may be 'emotionally unavailable' without knowing it due to an Anxious or Avoidant Attachment Style from childhood. This needs to be resolved to feel seen, heard, valued and loved. Us humans need to feel connected, seen, heard and valued. Without it we have symptoms like anxiety and shame. Working with, not against, 'neediness' is absolutely empowering.

MAIN PRACTICES

  • Boundaries skills and emotional safety

  • Genuine wants, needs and limits

  • Connecting communication skills

  • Attachment Styles

  • Creating trust, respect and reciprocity

STAGES OF BREAKUP RECOVERY: SWIRL

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SHATTERING

Shattering is most painful aspect of relationship distress, lack of connection, rejection, abandonment and especially when going through a breakup. During this stage our nervous system is activated as if we are going through a real attack. 

  • Devastation, anxiety, panic, heartbreak

  • Likely the most painful stage

  • You'll find yourself looping back into until fully healed

WHY THIS HAPPENS

  • Breakups result in 'aloneness' igniting the same FIGHT/FLIGHT stress response system as in life-threatening situations! 

  • Your nervous system is responding as if you are lost in the middle of the forest alone

Main Practices

  • Action Plan to Calm Nervous System

  • Grounding and NeuroSensory Exercises

  • Understand Your Triggers and Stress-Reaction Type

  • Deidealize Your Ex and Idealize Your Future

 

COMPASSION FOR

WITHDRAWAL

FEELS LIKE

  • Wrenching anguish, wakefulness, painful loneliness

  • May idealize ex and want them back

  • Looping thoughts and obsessing for a new love 'fix' 

WHY IT HAPPENS

  • Acute “neuro-biological crisis”

  • Physical symptoms are REAL and similar to heroin withdrawal, as it involves the opioid system

  • Stress hormones, such as adrenaline, norepinephrine, and glucocorticoids

  • Extreme shifts in serotonin and dopamine so you to feel “on edge,” restless sleep, digestion issues and more

Main Practices

  • Cleanse regrets and if-only's

  • Explore the many layers of social connection needs

  • Ensure you are getting your daily allowance

  • Learn how to feel and sense emotional connection

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OPEN UP TO

INTERNALIZING

FEELS LIKE

  • Self-berating thoughts, regrets, self-directed anger

  • Most critical stage of the cycle when your heartbreak “wound” is susceptible to “infection” because it impacts your core sense of Self and self-worth

WHY IT HAPPENS​

  • To feel somewhat in control, in the midst of this powerless situation, we direct anger at ourselves with self-indictment and even self-hate, in attempt to gain a sense of power

  • Our mind would rather feel powerful than powerless, so we take on an unrealistic amount of the blame

Main Practices

  • Cleanse regrets and if-only's

  • Realize and align with personal values

  • Inner Critic Work

  • Shame Detox

 

REVERE AND PROCESS

RAGE

FEELS LIKE

  • Turning point in grieving when you externalize pain

  • Surges of angry feelings towards your ex, or even displaced on friends and family

  • Expressing anger can be destructive and counter-productive, however healthy anger-processing is an essential part of the healing process

  • Revenge and retaliation fantasies are common!

WHY IT HAPPENS

  • Reverses rejection, refusing to accept all of blame

  • Stems from prolonged feelings of helplessness, rejection, agitated depression

Main Practices

  • Process anger and even the most painful emotions, including emotional flashbacks

  • Boundaries Skills

  • Understand your genuine wants, needs and limits

  • Learn to speak your Unarguable Truth and assertive communication skills

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NOTICE AND NURTURE

LIFTING

FEELS LIKE

  • Allow for moments of 'feeling good' with open arms, yet do not attempt to force them to stay

  • The natural healing process SWIRL's into moments of lifting, with time you will be lifted out of the grief cycle with an emergence of strength, self-trust - wiser for the painful lessons learned

  • You may have lifting stages that feel disconnected and foggy - this is ok, be patient with yourself

  • Remember just because you are having a good LIFTED day does not mean you’re fully healed

Main Practices

  • When you Lift, it is important to take your feelings (groundedness) with you. Otherwise you lose connection with yourself once again, creating an internal barrier to yourself and others

  • Learn about attachment styles

  • Overcome insecurities and anxiety

  • Create reciprocity and trust 

  • Learn to give and receive in a balanced way