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Improve Your Self 

Improve Your Relationships

Discover and Experience How Emotional Health, Self-Worth and Relational Health are Inextricably Intertwined

Do the Work, Feel Results

​"I just wanted to say thank you. It is wonderful... for the first time in my life, I am seeing and feeling healing!!!!"

CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT

Educational. Empowering. Transformative.

Repeating painful patterns? Experiencing disappointments, insecurities, conflict, reactivity, anxiety, resentment, betrayal, depression, heartbreak... even feeling unlovable?

 

It's not you. It's your lack of skills to navigate modern day stress and relationship.

 

Relationships were not meant to be this complicated. Plus, our subconscious attachment style from childhood can tamper with our ability to feel secure, respected, valued and loved.   

 

Let's upgrade your Self-Awareness and Self-Worth with Self Leadership (IFS), a leading-edge, empowering psychotherapy and skills-building method for Emotional and Relational Health. Learn to navigate emotions and triggers, understand your wants, needs and boundaries and learn to communicate with confidence to create secure relationships and overall well-being. 

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Self Work

LET'S FOCUS ON YOU

Rather than traditional talk therapy or passive listening, I actively engage with collaboration, creativity and solution-oriented skills as we navigate your inner world, limiting beliefs, maladaptive protective strategies and relational experiences. I utilize non-pathologizing Self Leadership (IFS) for transformative outcomes for complex-PTSD, anxiety, self-sabotaging, insecurities, codependency and relationship distress - even if you've been stuck in painful patterns for years.

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LET'S FOCUS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP

I cannot fix your relationship, but I promise an opportunity of a lifetime, for you both to work together, learning integral skills, through intensive coursework and practices. Without these skills, even the most devoted partners can end up in confusing conflict, maladaptive patterns, getting and protecting behaviors, push-pull dynamics, jealousy, insecurities, codependency, enmeshment, and painful dysfunction. Build respect, connection and trust with relationship-building know-how.

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LET'S FOCUS ON YOUR SKILLS

Imperative coursework to start today or to align with sessions. I offer two self-paced programs, Creating Self Leadership and Creating Self Leadership in Relationship. Couples are encouraged to do both. Through intensive courses, you learn evidence-based, tangible skills to process painful emotions, navigate relationship distress, and wholeheartedly connect with yourself and others. Guide your healing today, while learning empowering skills that improve your life forever.

Make Love Possible

"Staying out of the Drama Triangle and communicating my genuine wants and needs saved my marriage. My husband just wanted to love me but neither of us knew what that even meant. Thank you for making love possible."

CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT

My Credentials

My life's work is to empower others with Self Leadership, Emotional Processing and Relational Health Skills. I've mentored thousands of clients through depression, anxiety, addiction, divorce, codependency, self-loathing, insecurities and complex-PTSD. As a passionate learner and compassionate counselor, I have earned:

  • Master's of Science in Professional Counseling (MSPC)

  • Master's in Human and Organizational Behavior (MBA)

  • Certified Relationship Coach 

  • Best Counselor in Scottsdale Award, 2019

  • IFS-Informed Therapist (Self Leadership), IFS Institute

  • Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP)

  • 40+ years in life so far ;) 

  • 10+ years of experience

  • 22 certifications and trainings in mindfulness, CBT, DBT, EMDR, CFT, ACT, meditation instruction, somatic embodiment and nervous system regulation

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More Than Talk Therapy

"Truly grateful for all you have done for me. I can feel such a shift. I have had dozens of therapists throughout my life, but have never felt more valued and understood than while working with you. Thank you for helping me live my now empowered life."

CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT

 
 

What to Expect

Self Work
Self Leadership in Life

Guide your thoughts, emotions and behaviors

Cleanse regrets, toxic shame, and resentment

Resolve anxiety, insecurities and inner-berating

Build boundaries, self-worth and confidence

Remedy Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)

Heal heartbreak, complex trauma and depression

Mindfully respond to triggers instead of reacting

Strengthen your Soothing System for more calm

Align with your values and sense of purpose  

Couples Work
Self Leadership in Relationship

Create agreements together

Mindfully respond to triggers instead of reacting

Create connected, loving, trusting relationships

End codependency, enabling and enmeshment

Resolve conflict with ease

Learn to speak your forthright, Unarguable Truth

Transform resentment into clear expectations

Understand your genuine wants, needs and limits

Feel seen, heard, valued and respected

Confidence and Self-Worth

"Thank you for all your help over the past several weeks. I am a totally different person because of you. You have definitely restored my self-worth and pushed my confidence to move forward with my life."

CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT

Why Self Leadership?

Self Leadership involves your ability and responsibility to be in Wise Mind so you can observe, process and guide your beliefs, behaviors, emotions, needs, wants and other parts of your inner world. As you strengthen your Nervous System and Emotional Health and build your Soothing System you are able to mindfully choose responses rather than react, clearly communicate, navigate the big stuff, heal from hardships, breakthrough addiction and codependency, realize self-worth, create wholehearted relationships and more.

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Inspiration and Support

"I feel so lucky to have found you as my expert guide. I wouldn’t have found my way back to myself without you. Thanks for your inspiration and support."

CONFIDENTIAL CLIENT

 
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Why Emotional Health Skills?

Experience the profound benefits and fulfillment of working with your emotions, instead of self-medicating, depressing, maladaptively reacting or getting overwhelmed by them. 

Emotions are not just 'in your head' they are full body neurochemical and hormonal experiences that not only impact your physical health, but influence your thoughts, sensory processing, perceptions, focus, mood and behaviors, along with your ability to feel calm, enjoy life real-time and connect with others.

 

Over time, emotions and your reactions to them - intentional or not - create your choices, personality, your relationships, your Self and your entire life story. Gaining Self Leadership and making your emotional health an intentional practice, rather than unintentional reaction, helps you create the you, you want to be, and the life you want to live.

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